Archive for September, 2008
September 23rd, 2008 at 10:51am
Under Anger Management
{You can help to tame the wild beast in you by getting busy when you get angry. Diffusion in anger management terms is a process of decreasing the intensity of anger you feel by diverting angry emotions towards something more useful.}
{Before you react to anybody or anything that makes you angry, stop and think about whether it is worth it or not. Anger can be especially destructive if you fail to take its potential consequences into account. You need to be able to weigh each and every action before you react in anger.}
{Having a close friend that you can talk to in times of anger can help you control it. You can call up a friend or mail them when you are being threatened with the tide of anger. You can get a friend to help walk you through anger management techniques.}
{If you are thinking of enrolling for an anger management program, know this – Anger management programs are not created to teach you the art of repression or suppression. Anger management programs are geared towards giving you a tangible positive form of expression for your anger. Anger management classes make you a better person in the long run.}
{If you are a parent know that it would be a fatal mistake for you to discipline your child out of anger. If you are extremely angry at what a child of yours did, hitting that child or stripping him or her of any self esteem may be the result if you don’t get a grip on yourself. To ensure that child discipline is effective and the message is not lost on the child, always wait till you are calm before you effect correction.}
{Are your teens giving you a hard time by making you angry all the time? If you have an angry teenager on your hands, you really need to remember that patience always wins out at the end of the day and yelling or fretting will definitely not solve the problem. It will only make the problem more complicated and they might feel slighted or hurt if you say the wrong things to them in your fit of anger. }
{Expressing your emotion is a basic human function however, when your emotions are expressed negatively, it becomes a problem. Anger can be extremely destructive when it is expressed in unlimited proportions. If you have a problem letting others around you know that you are angry, you should seek professional anger management help.}
{Letting out your steam in such a way that it hurts people is bad. Bottling up your emotions is a bad way of showing that you are angry. The right way to show anger is to speak when you are calm and be mature about it.}
More insightful articles about anger management can be found at http://www.anger-management-tips.org
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September 22nd, 2008 at 11:50am
Under General
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Have you ever spent time wondering why many good people continually attract negative situations into their lives while others seem to attract nothing but beautiful situations into theirs. This concept contains power, possibility, and promise if you will use it.
You are God’s highest form of creation. You are a living breathing creative magnet. You have the ability to control what you attract into your life. There have always been small select groups of individuals who are aware of how to work in harmony with this natural law of the universe: The Law of Attraction.
This law clearly states you can only attract to you that which is in harmony with you. Everything in the universe vibrates. That is based on the Law of Vibration. That includes your mind and body. Look at your body through a microscope; it is a mass of energy that is moving and vibrating. Your mind controls the vibration you are in at any given moment. You control your mind by the thoughts you choose. No one can cause you to think something you do not want to think. This is where freedom comes in; this is also where the problem begins with most people. They permit what is happening around them to determine how they think. They have become the play-thing for outside forces.
Ninety percent of the population wish positive but think negative. Their negative thoughts put them in a negative vibration which by law determines what is attracted into their lives. As a creative individual you will continually attract good things into your life by thinking positive thoughts and expecting the best life has to offer. You deserve it.
This is why I wanted to let you know of an opportunity that could be extremely beneficial to you and one that I think you’ll find intriguing.
I have been interested in human potential for a good few years now and I’ve collected together some fascinating materials – the work of people like Jim Rohn, Brian Tracy, Dennis Waitely, Zig Ziglar, Anthony Robbins , Loral Langemier, Michele Blood– all the popular gurus as well as some less well known. And whilst this has been something of a hobby for me, it has also, I’m sure, made a great deal of difference to my growth and development as an individual.
But a couple of years ago, I chanced across the work of a Canadian called Bob Proctor and I can not tell you, what an impact the implementation of his simple ideas has had on my life.
Bob turned his life around from a hopeless situation to unbelievable success in a very short space of time, almost 50 years ago. He’s been researching, collecting, learning and studying ever since and spends practically all of every day, sharing his ideas with people all around the world. If you’re looking to change the results that you’re getting in any area of your life, then I can’t recommend his materials and programs to you strongly enough. And whilst I mean that with all the sincerity I can convey, that is not actually the purpose of my writing or the opportunity I referred to at the top of this letter.
Bob’s life turned around the moment someone put a certain book in his hands. A book that was released in 1934 and has been a best seller ever since. Today you can search Amazon for books on leadership and hundreds of titles will appear; but in the 20 years prior to publication, the author of the book I’m referring to have no alternative but to do the research himself. And so that’s what he did, he interviewed 25,000 people over a 20 year period, including 500 of the richest and most powerful people in America at the time. The culmination of that research is one of the most complete manuals on personal development ever written. It’s exhaustively researched, well put together, easy to read and most importantly of all…it works!
Bob carries the book with him into every seminar he conducts and still reads the book a couple of times every year. If you are short of a good book to read, then this book would certainly top my list of recommendations to you.
The author I’m referring to is Napoleon Hill, and the book is the phenomenally successful classic, Think and Grow Rich. This book has truly stood the test of time.
In reading a book of just a couple of hundred pages that is so rich in wisdom, so packed full of ideas, there is a real danger that we miss some of the key points that the author was trying to get across, or that we misunderstand certain aspects.
And that is really the reason for this letter. Over the years, Bob has put together a series of lessons, for want of a better word, based on the key chapters of the book. In each of these lessons, he identifies the key lines to focus on, the questions to ponder, the key teaching points etc. Reading the book alone is a very rewarding process. But to read the book in conjunction with a study guide prepared by someone who has been reading the book for nearly 50 years and is currently one of the highest paid coaches in the world, is quite another.
I am holding a meeting with eight like minded individuals who are looking for something more out of life and who are open minded enough to consider other peoples’ ideas on how to get more out of life. Each 2 weeks a new meeting starts
As Bob often says, if your way isn’t working, why don’t you try ours? Or put another way by Jim Rohn, don’t take too long to learn life’s lessons, if you’ve been doing it wrong for ten years, I would suggest that that’s long enough!
The meeting will be the first of ten one hour sessions, at the same time and place each week, to go through ten key chapters of this compelling masterpiece, and to discuss as a group, how each of us can apply these timeless truths to our lives today.
There is no charge for the course whatsoever. All I ask of you is that you consider in advance the commitment to make the meeting every week, and if you think it is something that you can commit to, then you do all that you reasonably can to be at the meeting on time every week. Besides this, all you need is a copy of the book.
Registration at: http://www.lespiliersdusucces.com/mastermind_inscription.html
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September 22nd, 2008 at 11:50am
Under General
What is it that makes us look down on someone or ‘think we are better than’… even for a minute? Have we seen life through their eyes? Do we have even an inkling of what life looks like from their perspective?
These were questions I had to ask myself, as I realized I had fallen down the slippery slope of judgment. In hindsight, I can laugh. I took my lesson, learned this fundamental personal
leadership quality and… the outcome is not one I will soon forget!
It was during my ‘hippy years’. You know those days of peace, love and rock n’ roll. My motto was ‘live and let live’ and that in itself makes my quick ability to judge that much more ironic. Undoubtedly it was time I learned a lesson.
Having just moved out of a religious commune, I headed north to visit one of my brothers. I loved him dearly and hadn’t seen him for a few years. We were to enjoy a couple of wonderful days together catching up. He was an actor and I was looking forward to seeing the theater production he was acting in.
After his performance on the Saturday night we were going to a party with his fellow actors. It was the birthday of one of the girls from the cast, and about 40 actors and crew members were meeting to celebrate with her.
It was a rather energetic group of revellers, and the Greek restaurant we descended on seemed ready for them. More prepared than I was! My life had been very low-key over the past couple of years and I was pretty much a teetotller. The refreshments of choice going around the table were definitely not tea. I chose a seat near the end of the tables, satisfied to mostly stay out of the action.
The party gained volume and energy for a number of hours… eating, drinking, and certainly being merry, and the end of the night was drawing close. It was kind of like a final party trick when this big drunken actor got up and took the center of the floor. He couldn’t be missed… weaving and wearing a blazing grin plastered beneath his big bald head, and making more than his share of noise. Really not a guy you’d take home to your parents. He was just steady enough to balance a tall stack of plates in one hand, while he held a single plate in the other. The Greek restaurant tradition of breaking plates was definitely on the program. He started smashing down through the plates… crack, crack, crack. The ceramic fell all about him and skidded across the floor from his drunken stupor.
He had broken all but a final single plate. After a dazed look of bewilderment, an even more audacious and stupid grin came upon him. He quickly thrust the plate over his head, and smash… down it came onto his naked skull. Somewhat dazed and now with a crooked smile, a little stream of blood let loose running down the side of his face.
I gazed at this performance with disgust… certainly judging him and thinking he was an idiot. Even though I obviously thought I was better than him, I didn’t feel good. I was ready to leave the party.
The following day my brother and I reviewed the party. He told me then that this drunken guy was one of his dearest friends. He had cancer and had been undergoing chemotherapy, hence the bald head. He’d been soldiering on, determined not to let it interfere with his career.
Even though he needed a daybed in the theatre for rests between his performances, he was not giving up. The party was an opportunity to let loose, knowing he was among understanding friends.
Well… he had been mostly among friends that night. I admitted that I was the one who had been the idiot, not him. The judgments fell away. My understanding opened and I sent out compassion, acceptance, and caring. This felt like a relief. I was offering something meaningful.
It was about 10 years later that I again crossed paths with this man. I had moved to the city my brother lived in, and as they were friends, we met. Over the coming weeks we found ourselves many times at the same social outings, brunches, and theatre productions. We
discovered that we actually shared a lot in common, and quite liked one another. In fact, we really liked one another.
About a year and a half later, in the style of the true gentleman I now understood him to be, he asked my father if he could take my hand in marriage.
Certainly, I could vividly recall the evening in the Greek restaurant, just as clearly as I could remember who the real idiot had been. This gentleman was an utter gift to me. One that I would have definitely overlooked if I had remained blindly in judgment. Fortunately I took a chance with the belief that he was a loving human being.
Within the year we rejoiced at our wonderful wedding in a park in the Rockies, and the reception… certainly not at a Greek restaurant!
Whenever I feel judgment glazing my view, it’s a powerful reminder for my personal development. It’s time to ask what it might be concealing. What is it blinding me to? What are the treasures, if only I can see through the haze. They’re there… waiting.
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September 21st, 2008 at 11:47am
Under Uncategorized
f you want to stop blushing, try one of these 6 simple ways to stop blushing.
1: When do you blush?
Sure, you know when you blush. But is there a pattern? What is the actual “thing” that starts your reaction and causes you to go so red in the face? Most people find that when they start to notice what causes their blushing, there are one or two common events. Once you’ve narrowed your blushes down like this, you can start working on a solution.
2: Chill out more
Quite often our blushing us caused because we’re not relaxed. The tension that builds up because of this turns into blushes – usually at just the wrong moment. Take up some form of relaxation such as meditation, yoga, listening to your favorite record, anthing that helps you to relax and chill more.
3: Stop paying attention to your blushing
If you’re like most people, you start to go even redder when you notice yourself blushing. You're probably going to be the first person who notices your blushing. Direct your attention elsewhere - it may be all you need to control your blushes.
4: Wear more makeup
It’s a good short term solution until you can get to the root cause of your blushing problem.
5: Practice blushing “on command”
Go on, blush now! Right now, this instant! Was it as easy as you thought it would be? Or was it a lot harder than you expected? Most people find it’s actually very hard to blush when they just tell themselves to do it. If that’s the case with you then the next time you find yourself blushing, tell yourself to blush even more. Chances are you’ll fail – which is good – and that you’ll find it more difficult to blush next time around.
5: Get a hypnosis MP3 download
There are some excellent hypnosis MP3s to help with your blushing problem. This particular anti-blushing hypnosis MP3 works well and is remarkably inexpensive.
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September 21st, 2008 at 11:47am
Under Uncategorized
Sure, you get angry. Perhaps you're only angry every now and then. Or maybe you're angry most of the time.
The good news is, it’s not your fault that your anger surfaces. It's all those other people and things around you! You know, the ones who deliberately drive slowly in front of you. The people in line who spend forever getting the right change out of their purse. Your boss at work who always gives you the hardest jobs with the shortest deadlines. It doesn't matter what caused you to get angry. It’s what to do to get rid of your anger or at least manage your anger that counts.
So what can you do to manage your anger?
1 – Count to ten. Slowly.
Sure, your mother probably told you to do this when you were child. And you’re not a child any more. Want to know a secret? It works just as well now (maybe even better) than it did when you were younger. If it helps, swear under your breath with each number you count. When you count to ten, do it slowly. It isn't a race. Time your breaths to coincide with your counting and make each breath long and deep. Do the same when you exhale.
2 - Take a long, deep breath.
Ideally, more than just one. Taking between 5 and 10 long, deep breaths will start to make a noticeable dent in your anger. Try it now, while you're not wound up. Breathe in. S-l-o-w-l-y. Pay attention to the air as it starts to fill your lungs. Then hold your breath for a second or so. Then slowly exhale, again noticing how the air feels as it leaves you. See your anger leave your body on the crest of this air and watch it dissipate into thin air.
3 - Talk about your angry feelings.
Maybe with your shrink. Or talking with a colleague from work or a friend you can trust one hundred percent. Use this talking to express your thoughts. But probably not screaming at the top of your voice. Quite often your anger is caused by the straw that broke the camel’s back and can be triggered by something relatively trivial. If you talk about your anger - and maybe don't take yourself quite as seriously during the process - then you'll likely find your anger starts to reduce.
4 - Give yourself some relaxation time.
Anger often goes side by side with stress. Relaxation will help to de-stress you. Which in turn will help to reduce your anger or at least cut down the length of time you're angry. Relaxation (a lost art in our modern society) takes many different forms. Choose one that's best for you. Whether it's a walk in the park. Or a long soak in the bath. Or a specific relaxation track you've downloaded from the web.
5 - Use hypnosis for anger management.
Using hypnosis can be an easy way to help reduce and manage your anger. It works with you to help change how you react to situations that would have previously made you angry. It's remarkably inexpensive and totally discrete. Check out this hypnosis anger management track for more information.
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September 21st, 2008 at 11:47am
Under Uncategorized
Discover, learn and use self hypnosis to overcome life’s challenges and achieve the extraordinary.
If you have something you desire to change or accomplish such as losing weight, overcoming a fear or to quit a 20 year smoking habit, believe it or not, self hypnosis can help you deal with all of these problems quickly, easily and permanently.
However, if you are wondering why would anyone want or should use self hypnosis to help themselves since there are thousands of other methods that a person can turn to, to improve themselves. Well, the answer lies within our own powerful subconscious brain.
In a 1981 article “The phenomena and Characteristics of Self Hypnosis”, Dr Erika Fromm discovered that our brain is more receptive to self suggestions, rather than receiving them from another person, because these self suggestions are more readily accepted by our ego.
Therefore, as long as you’re willing, you can positively align your thoughts around the area of your need with self hypnosis to help you create a definite focus for your mind so as to maximize your creative potential to accomplish whatever you desire from life.
With self hypnosis, you can learn to undo bad habits, like smoking or overeating. You can give yourself permission to be happier, more self-confident, less shy and more outgoing – just by using the right message.
To achieve real change, you need to change your subconscious; and the best way to develop powerful influence over your subconscious mind is through self hypnotism.
Do you know the world’s top athletes and movie stars like Tiger Woods, Lee Evans, John Travolta and Oprah all use self hypnosis to help themselves overcome their failures and achieve their true potential.
If you are truly desire change and is ready to live a better, happier life, try Self Hypnosis today to make dramatically positive changes in your life.
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September 21st, 2008 at 11:47am
Under Uncategorized
{Firstly, ‘impossible’ is one word that keeps dreams from becoming carried out, and has left numerous folks living lives of discontentedness and even daunting trials.}
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September 21st, 2008 at 11:47am
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Are you finding yourself too busy now-a-days? This tight schedule often causes stress. Several people are suffering from diseases due to work related pressure and stress. It is necessary to manage your time better to manage your stress.
Stress can often be caused by not having enough time to do the things you want or need to do. This is a common problem shared by many employees and employers alike in the workplace as well as students at school, colleges and universities. By managing your time, stresses can be reduced significantly.
Here are 8 useful tips on better time management
1. Do you make statements like “I’ll come over in a minute”, “Just give me a couple of minutes to get dressed and finish breakfast”. You must be aware by now that all the above statements are probably false because you can not dressed and finish breakfast in two minutes.
2. The key to good time management is self-organization and planning. You should plan your job at the start of every day and you should assign proper priority to all your activity.
3. set a time limit for all activities. You should assign 30 minutes in morning and 30 minutes in afternoon for reading the mails.
4. You should make your schedule based on the priority of the task. This is most important for better time management.
5. Identify all nonproductive hours in your office and remove them from your schedule. Remove all non productive time wasting activities. One way to do this is by simply maintenance a track of every activity you do and how much time you spend. Soon you will realize that real time wasters like surfing the net or making personal calls actually impact your time.
6. You should be your critic. You should review your efficiency on the various tasks day to day. You should challenge yourself to improve the quality of your work with less time. A small change in your archiving of data in your computer can save an average 30 minutes per day. You can get your secretary to help you do this.
7. Try to identify your idle time. If you are traveling to and from work by public transport, there is plenty of opportunity to complete a task, especially in today’s mobile computing age.
8. Your plan should be realistic. You need to acknowledge that there is only 24 hours in a day. Don’t make an unachievable target which will increase your stress level.
You can refer to productivity improvement guidelines to improve your time management skills.
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September 21st, 2008 at 11:47am
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Anyone who is physically disabled well understands the absolute need for wheelchair donations for similarly disabled persons. Unfortunately, many physically disabled persons are without proper resources to purchase the needed wheelchairs and assistance. So how can we help?
Organizations worldwide are involved in projects to provide free wheelchairs to persons with disabilities who are not able to afford a wheelchair on their own. By helping such people through cash or wheelchair donations, you can bring a smile to their faces by making their lives just a tad easy.
They need it!
There are over 100 million physically disabled persons worldwide. And there are many others living in the “forgotten” parts of the world. All these have people are disabled due to different reasons such as accidents, birth defects, war injuries, disease, or old age. There are scads of people who have been disabled due to landmines and unexploded ordinance. According the World Health Organization, landmines around the world injure over 29,000 people every year. This number does not take into account unreported cases or deaths caused by the explosions.
The bottom line is that whatever may be the reason behind their disability, all of them need wheelchairs. The greatest need being in developing countries, for it is estimated that the need for wheelchairs in these countries will increase by 22 percent over the next 10 years.
In fact, in developing countries, where the need is most pronounced, these persons are currently bedridden, or get around by using their arms to propel them from place to place. Don’t these people deserve the dignity of being able to move around their homes and communities with ease? Of course they do; and you can help.
Through programs such as the Wheelchair Foundation, run all over the world; you may donate wheelchairs to be sent to several countries outside the U.S. The foundation, however, does not deliver individual chairs, but sends bulk containers to different regions.
Other organizations such as Chariots of Hope, Direct Relief International, and Hope Alliance International are all non-profit organizations that work internationally and receive donations for used wheelchair equipment. Unlike, the Wheelchair Foundation that ships large orders to general areas, these organizations attempt to cater for individual recipients. In many cases, when you donate a wheelchair, the organization will refurbish the used chair and then ship it to a child or adult in need.
All these organizations need your help to help the disabled. You can help the disabled improve the quality of their life and add that zip to their crippled movements. And won’t you enjoy adding some years to their life and adding life to those years.
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September 21st, 2008 at 11:47am
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Many choices in life involve a trade-off or a balance. When there is not enough time, money or energy to accomplish everything you want to do, you will have to choose your priorities carefully, knowing that each pursuit leaves you less time and fewer resources for another goal or interest. However, in the midst of life’s difficult choices, one decision is very simple from an analytical perspective. Whereas many activities have both positive and negative aspects, procrastination is one activity that consumes your time and energy while contributing nothing to your ultimate quality of life. For this reason, even a small amount of consideration should convince you to eliminate procrastination from your life. Yet this habit is not always easy to break, and even the best intentions to stop procrastinating may not be successful. A few tips, and a smallish bit of effort, can help stop the habit of procrastination, allowing you to spend your time on more worthy pursuits.
One of the skills that can be extremely helpful in ending procrastination is the ability to prioritize. Not all activities are equally crucial, and it is thinkable to waste time while actually appearing to get things finished. In order to avoid procrastinating on your most important tasks, it may be helpful to make a list of all the things you want to accomplish this week. Without making any distinctions between important and insignificant tasks, brainstorm a list of a week’s worth of goals. Once you believe you have everything you need written down, either numerate the items in order of importance from most important to least necessary, or group the points into high-, medium- and low-priority divisions. Try to identify your three most important tasks for the week and list on your calendar the things you will need to do in order to successfully complete them. Then you can focus upon these most important tasks, saving the less weighty ones for the time that is left. Once you have got into the habit of prioritizing your week, move on to prioritizing by month and then by periods of three months.
Another important step in overcoming procrastination is to make sure that you see your ultimate goals in terms of the small steps that you will need to take. By breaking down complicated tasks into manageable stages, each with its own mini-deadline, you will prevent yourself from procrastinating in the belief that your goal is impossible regardless of what you do. In addition, the shorter amounts of time between deadlines will prevent you from procrastinating because a deadline seems so distant that you have all the time in the world. You may find that you are no longer tempted to procrastinate with your important goals when you know what you’ll need to do to accomplish them and exactly how long it will take. Once you have taken these steps to end procrastination, you may find yourself easily accomplishing tasks that once seemed almost impossible.
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