The good news is, it’s not your fault that your anger surfaces. It's all those other people and things around you! You know, the ones who deliberately drive slowly in front of you. The people in line who spend forever getting the right change out of their purse. Your boss at work who always gives you the hardest jobs with the shortest deadlines. It doesn't matter what caused you to get angry. It’s what to do to get rid of your anger or at least manage your anger that counts.

So what can you do to manage your anger?

1 – Count to ten. Slowly.

Sure, your mother probably told you to do this when you were child. And you’re not a child any more. Want to know a secret? It works just as well now (maybe even better) than it did when you were younger. If it helps, swear under your breath with each number you count. When you count to ten, do it slowly. It isn't a race. Time your breaths to coincide with your counting and make each breath long and deep. Do the same when you exhale.

2 - Take a long, deep breath.

Ideally, more than just one. Taking between 5 and 10 long, deep breaths will start to make a noticeable dent in your anger. Try it now, while you're not wound up. Breathe in. S-l-o-w-l-y. Pay attention to the air as it starts to fill your lungs. Then hold your breath for a second or so. Then slowly exhale, again noticing how the air feels as it leaves you. See your anger leave your body on the crest of this air and watch it dissipate into thin air.

3 - Talk about your angry feelings.

Maybe with your shrink. Or talking with a colleague from work or a friend you can trust one hundred percent. Use this talking to express your thoughts. But probably not screaming at the top of your voice. Quite often your anger is caused by the straw that broke the camel’s back and can be triggered by something relatively trivial. If you talk about your anger - and maybe don't take yourself quite as seriously during the process - then you'll likely find your anger starts to reduce.

4 - Give yourself some relaxation time.

Anger often goes side by side with stress. Relaxation will help to de-stress you. Which in turn will help to reduce your anger or at least cut down the length of time you're angry. Relaxation (a lost art in our modern society) takes many different forms. Choose one that's best for you. Whether it's a walk in the park. Or a long soak in the bath. Or a specific relaxation track you've downloaded from the web.

5 - Use hypnosis for anger management.

Using hypnosis can be an easy way to help reduce and manage your anger. It works with you to help change how you react to situations that would have previously made you angry. It's remarkably inexpensive and totally discrete. Check out this hypnosis anger management track for more information.